Break Your Addiction

By Alicia Socorro

From coffee to cigarettes and shoe shopping to Blackberrys, it seems that every woman is trying to overcome an addiction to something. Of course, there are some addictions that are way more serious than others, but if you want to break your addiction yourself, it is possible. And no, you don’t need a hypnotist.

Giving up a habit that has become an integral part of your routine may feel almost impossible, but with a little help and self-realization, you can do anything you set your mind to. Yes, even break your addiction.


Break your addiction tip #1
Understand why you’re addicted
Before you can even begin to break your addiction, you need to understand why it’s become a part of your life. You have to decide what the reason is, whether it’s because you need it to deal with anxiety or stressors in your life.

And you also need to figure out how it helps you, or, rather, how you perceive it helps you. This is a very difficult step and facing the facts may be more difficult than you imagine.

For example, if you drink to excess, admitting that you’re self-medicating to numb yourself of pain is a lot harder than believing that you drink because “everyone around me encourages it.”


Break your addiction tip #2
Admit it rather than deny it
Whether you smoke or dig yourself into debt by shopping like a madwoman, at some level, you are well aware that what you’re doing is not good for you in any capacity. What’s conflicting is that you know this, yet can’t stop yourself. Or can you?

If you can admit to yourself that you do it because you’re trying to cover up something within, then you can move on to break your addiction. But if you continue to play the victim or trivialize the issue, you won’t be able to overcome your vice.


Break your addiction tip #3
Avoid the triggers
If hanging out with all your smoker friends will definitely get you into the cigarette mode, perhaps it’s best to steer clear of them until you’re confident that you kicked the habit.

As well, if a certain time of day triggers your need for a drink or a cigarette, you have to recognize these situations and overcome them. It only takes a few minutes to get through it. Remember; you can break your addiction by focusing on the present and not the future. Take things one day at a time.


Break your addiction tip #4
Make the change now
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard women say “Oh, I plant to quit when I’m 30.” That’s a crock. If you really want to quit, you’ll quit starting now. There is no right time in the future; the time is now.

If you do procrastinate, it’s because you refuse to face and break your addiction. You will not be successful until you’re prepared and resolve to give it up for good.


Break your addiction tip #5
Take responsibility for setbacks
If you managed to break your addiction for 5 weeks and ended up falling off the wagon once, that doesn’t mean that you should throw all your efforts out the window and fall back into your old habits.

Own your mistake and move on. It’s not the end of the world if you make a mistake, so long as it’s the exception and not the rule.


Break your addiction tip #6
Reward your accomplishment
Breaking an addiction is a huge feat and you should reward yourself for accomplishing your goal. Whether you head out on vacation or buy yourself a box of chocolates, a small reward for your efforts is worthwhile.

Every day you go without is another step closer to breaking your addiction for good. And that is definitely something to be proud of.


Break your addiction tip #7
Create a support system
Going through this alone is never easy, so it would serve you best to enlist the help of friends and family. First, tell this support system about your plans to break your addiction. This way, you’ll feel obligated to follow through even more so.

Second, in your moments of weakness, you’ll have someone to rely on. Your support system will encourage you to keep going and help you through those weak points in your mission to break your addiction.


Break your addiction tip #8
Create a new coping mechanism
A girlfriend of mine used to smoke a full pack of cigarettes a day, and did so for 12 years. But after her mom was diagnosed with lung cancer, she made a promise to quit. The problem was that she took away something that helped calm her down and didn’t replace it with anything.

If you’re going to quit something cold turkey, you can’t expect to move on without a hitch. You need to replace your old habit with a new one. That’s not to suggest that you quit smoking and take up alcohol; no, you need to replace your bad addiction with a good habit.

For example, if you quit smoking, take up fitness or even something as simple as breathing exercises. Your objective is to move into a better, healthier direction.

Break your addiction forever

With a little programming and a lot of willpower, you can definitely kick the habit and break your addiction for good. You’re best bet is to look at things from the immediate and not overwhelm yourself with the idea that you will quitting “forever.”

Take things one day at a time and before you know it, years will have passed and your addiction will be nothing but a distant memory.

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Are You A Procrastinator?

By Alicia Sorocco

At some point or another, we’ve all done it. The reasons why are aplenty, but there’s no doubt that we’ve all put off till tomorrow what could be done today. What prompts this behavior? Is it simply because we can’t be bothered? Well, maybe, but there are other reasons behind our consistent postponement of the things that need to get done.

So why do you keep putting off your daily duties? Well, the reasons may surprise you.

Why you procrastinate reason #1
Tasks are unpleasant
If you have to clean out the cat litter or call up the cable company for weird charges to your bill, it’s obvious that neither is going to be fun. So there’s a good chance that you’ll avoid getting them done for as long as you can.

Resolution: If you go into such tasks with a good attitude (“I love my cat so much, she’s adorable,” and “Let’s see which customer service rep is going to make my day today.”), there’s a good chance you’ll come out of them without feeling like you never want to go through that again.

Why you procrastinate reason #2
Tasks are difficult
Whether it’s writing an article that requires a boatload of research or building a dog house, the idea of getting started sucks the wind right out of you simply because the task is huge in its entirety.

Resolution: Break the project down into pieces and, if necessary, delegate. When you turn a huge task into a bunch of smaller ones, you’ll find that you get more done in less time. As well, if someone happens to be around when you’re ready to go, ask for their help.

Why you procrastinate reason #3
Fear of making the wrong decision
Sometimes, the best way to avoid blame or regret is by avoiding the decision-making process entirely. Unfortunately, you will have to make a decision at some point. Let’s get on that today, shall we?

Resolution: Give yourself a deadline and tell someone about it; someone who will rag on you if you don’t follow through. That way, you’ll feel obligated to make a decision and be done with it.

Why you procrastinate reason #4
You’re just lazy
This one is probably the most difficult reasons to overcome. If you just don’t have the motivation in you, it is up to you to discipline yourself because you’re the only person you should always be able to depend on.

Resolution: The only way to change this potentially crippling behavior is by promising yourself a reward once it’s complete. The thing is, you cannot, under any circumstance, reward yourself if you don’t accomplish your goal.

You can also tell others of your intentions to get something done; that way, you’ll feel anxious about not getting it done after having told the world that you would.

Why you procrastinate reason #5
It’s never perfect enough
You, like most of us, are mildly neurotic. No matter how hard you work at projects, you feel as though they’re never completed to perfection. So, rather than break your head trying to perfect it, you give up altogether.

Resolution: At some point, you’re going to figure out, that not everything can be perfect because perfect is a relative term. As long as you do your best and try your hardest, you can’t demand more than that of yourself. Show your accomplishment to others (at the point when you start sweating the small stuff) and get their opinions. There’s a strong chance that they’ll be impressed by what you’ve done.

Why you procrastinate reason #6
You hate your boss
Ask anyone and they’ll tell you that working hard so that a person you really hate can make a bigger salary sucks eggs. And if you’re in a situation where you only want to work the bare minimum so that you don’t get fired, you really need to reevaluate your professional situation.

Resolution: In this particular situation, procrastination is less of habit and more of a vengeful tactic. You have two choices: 1) Begin actively seeking other employment; or, 2) Resolve your issues with your boss.

Why you procrastinate reason #7
You have adult ADD
Focusing your attention on one thing for an extended period of time is almost impossible. If it’s not the lure of Internet gossip sites that distract you, it’s Jane from accounting who comes strolling in to tell you about the latest love affair on the sixth floor. You just can’t make yourself pay attention to the task at hand.

Resolution: If you have an office, close your door. If you work in a cubicle, put a “Do Not Disturb” sign on top of your computer. It’s okay to let distractions take over every once in awhile, but you shouldn’t use them to avoid getting your work done.

Create a list of small tasks to complete each day and make sure that you accomplish them each day. That way, you will have a sense of satisfaction in knowing that you’re not letting your distractions take up the majority of your day.

Stop putting things off

It’s easy to wait until the very last minute to get things done, but that will only lead to more stress in your life, and God knows we all have enough of that already.

Make time to get the things you don’t take pleasure in out of the way so that you have more time to enjoy the things you love doing.

Otherwise, you might wake up one day and discover that you’re 60 years old with nothing to show for it. It’s all up to you.

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How To Make Mixed Drinks Men Love

By Joanne Redder

You met him a couple of weeks ago, you hit it off instantly and now you’re inviting him over to your place for mixed drinks, dinner and a movie.

Now there’s no doubt that men love smooth, hard-hitting drinks. But if you want to get lucky that night and ensure that he can keep up for the evening, chances are you don’t want to get him hammered.

Lucky for you, there are mixed drinks you can make that aren’t too frou-frou and that will easily leave him asking, “Mmm, this is so good, what’s in it?” Of course, you’ll need to find out beforehand what his preferred liquor is.

You have the option of having him guess, telling him, or kissing him. I’m just going to tell you how to make the mixed drinks.

What to avoid when making drinks

Before you get started, there are certain elements that you want to avoid when you’re making drinks, chief among them:

Color: You can’t have anything that looks even remotely pastel or pink. It’s very important that the drink you serve have a masculine feel to it. No, not blue, but more of a Scotch whisky color.

Texture: The drink can’t be syrupy or thick. Ice, water, and soda are your friends. Use them.

Mixture: You want to avoid the use of sugar and syrup. They have absolutely no place in a man’s mixed drink. Do your best to avoid the whole “pink umbrella” concoctions.

Garnishes/Accessories: Manly drinks don’t come with straws. Ever. And maraschino cherries aren’t found inside them either. Olives and fruit wedges are acceptable.

The mixed drink menu for men

Mixed Drink #1
Black Russian
2 ounces vodka
1 ounce coffee-flavored liquor

In a glass filled with ice, pour in the ingredients and stir. Yup, it’s that simple.

Mixed Drink #2
Dry Martini
1.5 ounces vodka
¾ ounce dry vermouth
2 olives

Pour the vodka and dry vermouth into a shaker with ice. Shake for 10 seconds, then strain into a martini glass. Garnish with olives.

Mixed Drink #3
Gin & Tonic
2 ounces gin
5 ounces tonic water
lime wedge
ice

Fill a highball glass ¾ of the way with ice. Pour in the gin and tonic, and stir the ingredients together. Place the lime wedge on the rim of the glass.

Mixed Drink #4
Jack & Coke
2 ounces Jack Daniel’s whisky
5 ounces Coca-Cola
ice

Fill a highball glass ¾ of the way with ice. Pour in the Jack and Coke, and stir the contents together until well blended.

Mixed Drink #5
Manhattan Dry
1.5 ounces Canadian whisky
¾ ounce dry vermouth
1 dash Angostura bitters
1 lemon wedge

Places the whisky, vermouth and bitters into a mixing glass filled with ice, and stir well. Strain into a martini glass and garnish with lemon.

Mixed Drink #6
Sidecar
2 ounces cognac
½ ounce Cointreau
1 ounce lemon juice

Fill a shaker halfway with ice cubes and pour in all the ingredients. Shake the contents well and strain into a martini glass.

Mixed Drink #7
Scotch Highball
2 ounces scotch
5 ounces carbonated water
1 lemon wedge

Fill a highball glass with ice. Pour in the scotch and fill the glass up with carbonated water. Place the lemon wedge on the rim of the glass.

Mixed Drink #8
Typhoon
Champagne
1 ounce gin
½ ounce anisette
1 ounce lime juice

Pour the gin, anisette and lime juice into a shaker filled with ice. Shake contents well. Strain into a Collins glass over ice cubes. Fill the remainder of the glass with champagne.

Are you drunk yet?

I tried to select enough of a variety here that you’re sure to find one to please your man’s palate (if he drinks, that is). So enjoy the drinks, cheer to a long life, and have a great night.

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How To Become A Movie Extra

By Joanne Redder

You are a star - at least potentially, and you want to let the world know it via the big screen. Of course, you have no formal acting training nor do you have an agent, but you just know that the camera lens is going to love you and that this is your destiny.

That’s great, congratulations! Unfortunately, chances are that you’re going to have to start small and get a feel for how movies work from behind-the-scenes before you become the next Scarlett Johansson.

But how can you get started as a movie extra? Well, I’m glad you asked, otherwise, this article would have ended here.

What does a movie extra do?

More often than not, a movie extra doesn’t do much besides stand in place or walk past the lens during filming. There are no lines to be said and no extraordinary behaviors needed.

Sometimes, for big-crowd scenes, you may be asked to yell or run, or dress up in certain garb, but chances are that none of your friends will spot you when all is said and done.

How much do movie extras get paid?

How much money you can make as a movie extra all depends on the employer, whether or not you’re in a union, and whether or not the film is a non-union one.

If you’re not part of the actor’s union, pay varies from $7 an hour to more than $50 a day.

If you are part of the union and it’s a union film, then the employer must abide by the SAG (Screen Actor’s Guild) agreement. If you would like more information on how to join SAG, head to SAG.org and check out the information provided on Background Actors (movie extras).

How can you find movie extra work?

It’s not tough to find movie extra jobs, but it may be somewhat tough to land them. There are a few websites that list movie extra jobs in specific areas, although most that are listed take place in, you guessed it, Hollywood.

Some online venues you can check out include:

• EntertainmentCareers.net
• CraigsList.org (check the tv / film / video section in your area)
• BackStage.com

Of course, a “move extra casting calls” search on Google wouldn’t hurt either. With a touch of creativity, you’re bound to find out where and when movie extras are needed and you can head to the location and get your fame on.

You can always register with a casting call company in person, for which you shouldn’t pay more than $25. And finally, you can register online at websites like MovieX.com.

What awaits movie extras on set?

To prove that you know what you’re doing, once you get accepted as a movie extra, there are some things you should ask.

First, find out if you need to wear anything special for the scene. Next, if the movie is set in a specific time period, study up on it via the Internet. Even though you don’t have a speaking role, it’s always good to know what’s going on when the director yells “Action.”

Sometimes, your workday will be 12 hours long, but worry not because there will be plenty of catered food on the set. Of course, you probably won’t be in the same line as or eating alongside the stars of the film, but nevertheless, you will be fed breakfast, lunch, dinner, and snacks.

You will likely spend a lot of time doing nothing, so it’s a good idea to bring a book or magazines to keep yourself entertained.

Although it’s not forbidden for you to walk around the set, remember that, even if you’re the most beautiful woman in the world, it is possible to annoy those who are trying to do their jobs, so do your best to stay out of people’s way and avoid asking a million questions.

Movie extra set etiquette

As an employee of the set, it is in your best interest to make sure that you and those around you have a pleasant experience, and in order to make that happen, keep these tips in mind.


Movie extra etiquette tip #1
Don’t harass the stars
If Clive Owen and Rachel McAdams are the stars of the show, feel free to tell them that you enjoy watching them or that you admire them, but do not harass them or beg them to help you break into the industry.


Movie extra etiquette tip #2
Don’t gorge on food
While the food is there for your eating pleasure, there are plenty of mouths that have to be fed, so don’t gorge on everything until you can’t breathe. Eat until you’re full and leave some food for others.


Movie extra etiquette tip #3
Don’t bring a camera
As tempting as it may be, bringing any mechanism that captures images (including a cell phone) and taking pictures can get you thrown off the set and leave you out of a job, so resist the temptation.


Movie extra etiquette tip #4
Close all of your gadgets
All your electronic items, including your cell phone, your iPod, your handheld, and anything else that might disrupt taping, must be turned off. Remember that you’re an extra and a slip-up as minor as this can get you fired.


Movie extra etiquette tip #5
Don’t look into the camera
When you’re finally called to the set, do not look into the camera unless you are directed to do so. Not only will this confirm that you’re an amateur, but you’ll probably get cut out of the film altogether.


Movie extra etiquette tip #6
Don’t break character
Even if you think that the camera’s off of you and that you can relax, don’t. You should stay in character up until the moment you hear the director yell out “Cut.”

Movie extra fame

The minute you say a word on film, you become an “actor,” and that should be your mission, unless, of course, you’re more the silent type and enjoy the movie extra experience.

The pay isn’t great and the time on set may not even be all that fun, but the experience is well worth it, no doubt. Action!

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How To Eat Sushi

By Joanne Redder

Since the beginning of the millennium, sushi has gained popularity among North Americans, with many indulging in the fish, rice and seaweed concoction at least once a month. But do you really know how to eat sushi?

But more often than not, most diners of Japanese art aren’t exactly sure what the etiquette is when it comes to ordering, eating and using sushi condiments.

That said, here’s a mini-lesson on how to eat sushi using chopsticks, what’s what when ordering, and what the extras are all about.

Separating sushi from maki


Sushi (or Nigiri)
Most people tend not to order sushi, but rather maki. Sushi is actually a piece of fish or seafood that lays on top of a rice ball and may or may not be held together by a slim piece of seaweed or nori.


Sashimi
Sashimi is a piece of fish or seafood that stands alone. If you ask for something that is more difficult to slice, such as lobster or crab, or if you’d like it spicy, chances are it may be bunched up on the side of your platter or placed in a small bowl.


Maki (or Norimaki)
Maki is usually the most popular option for sushi eaters. The pieces vary from small --containing just fish and rice -- to mouth fillers -- wherein they contain fish, rice, and other fillers like cucumber, crispy tempura, avocado, sushi mayonnaise and more.

Maki may have the seaweed on the outside or on the inside, leaving the rice as the outer layer, making for a different look, but with the same great taste.


Hand rolls (or Temaki)
Hand rolls resemble ice cream cones; they come to a point on one side and open up, showing off the filling on the other.

They essentially contain the same ingredients that any maki would contain, except that they’re rolled a different way and aren’t cut into pieces.

To eat them, you would pick up the pointed end with your fingers and start at the open end, eating away until the entire roll is gone.

How to eat sushi

Please note that for simplicity’s sake, I will refer to all of the aforementioned dishes as “sushi” going forward.


How to eat sushi tip #1
Use fingers or chopsticks
The beauty of sushi is that it’s a finger food, so if you’re not exactly familiar with the use of chopsticks (you should get on that pronto), not to worry; eating with your hands is fine (except for the sashimi, which requires being eaten with chopsticks).

It’s actually preferable to eat with your hands than it would be for you to cut up a piece of sushi with a fork and knife.


How to eat sushi tip #2
Eat the whole piece of sushi
When you indulge in sushi, it is proper etiquette to place the entire piece into your mouth rather than bite off a piece (except the roll, of course). It is considered a work of art by the chef who creates it and it is insulting when you tear it apart, leaving it to fall apart in your hand, on the sticks, or on the plate.


How to eat sushi tip #3
Don’t drown your food in soy sauce
Just as it’s rude to salt your food before you taste it, it’s just as rude to drench your sushi in soy sauce before you put a piece into your mouth. Soy sauce is meant to enhance the flavor of what you’re eating, not drown it.

Dab your sushi into the sauce and eat it, rather than pour the sauce over your food.


How to eat sushi tip #4
Try the wasabi
If you use too much of it, wasabi will make you feel like you got punched in the nose, but this green horseradish concoction works wonders in moderation and is quite good for you.

To use it, you can either ask the sushi chef to include some in your sushi or you can place some directly onto your piece of sushi and then dip that side into the soy sauce. Of course, you can always eat it without the sauce.

It is considered bad manners, however, to mix wasabi with your soy sauce.


How to eat sushi tip #5
Eat the ginger
The pink, pickled ginger is not meant to be eaten with sushi simultaneously; rather, it’s used to cleanse the palate after each morsel, so have a piece of sushi, eat a piece of ginger, then try a different piece of sushi.

Now you know how to eat sushi

Sushi is a fun and beautiful dining experience, and if you know how to enjoy it to the fullest, it will taste that much better.

And if you are thinking about trying it but feel a bit sketched out by the whole “raw fish, seaweed” thing, you should at least go into the experience with an open mind before you decide that sushi is not for you.

Itadaki-masu.

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How To Cure A Hangover

By Joanne Redder

Last night was fantastic. You met up with George and the two of you headed out on the town, where the champagne was flowing freely and you were on top of the world. Little did you know that you’d need to cure a hangover the next morning.

You wake up, bleary eyed, recollecting all the things that happened last night and then, you smile. It was great; it was a fantastic night and you’re so happy you decided to go. Then, as you try to lift yourself up, you realize that your head is pounding and your mouth feels like someone poured sand in it.

You, my friend, are hungover and you what you need is a fast acting cure. And while you might not want to try all of them, sometimes, to cure a hangover, you need to do whatever it takes.

Cure a hangover tip #1
Sleep
If you don’t have to go anywhere, don’t. Stay in bed and try to get some more rest. The more time you give your body to recuperate from the high blood alcohol levels you exposed it to, the better.

Try to sleep and if you can’t get any shut eye, just lay there and close your eyes or stare into space. Watching television and reading will force your eyes to focus and that will only intensify the headache.

Cure a hangover tip #2
Hydrate
You probably weren’t drinking any water between all those shooters and drinks last night, so your mission for today is to get as much hydration as you can. Water is your friend, so keep some by you all day long.

As well, try to get your hands on a sports drink like Gatorade, that contains electrolytes and will help to replenish and refuel your body.

Cure a hangover tip #3
Vitamin C
After the number you did on your liver last night, you will need your fill of vitamin C. Not only will it help to minimize the damage to your liver caused by your partying, it will also give you a boost of energy.

Take a chewable vitamin C pill on 3 different occasions during the day so that your body can keep up its work to undo the damage you did last night.

Cure a hangover tip #4
Bloody Mary
I know, I know, how could the very thing that put you in this situation claim itself as a cure the next day? But the tomato juice helps you to absorb the alcohol more quickly and the vodka tends to help your body deal with the alcohol depletion.

Mix 1.5 ounces of vodka with 3 ounces tomato juice, 3 drops Tabasco sauce, a dash of Worcestershire sauce, salt, pepper, and some lemon juice. Drink up.

Cure a hangover tip #5
Pain killer
Whether you’re preferred brand is Tylenol, Aspirin or Advil, take two pills (if you don’t plan on vomiting) with plenty of water and take it easy. At least it will help to ease the pounding headache.

If you are still vomiting, however, don’t bother taking any pills; they taste awful coming back up and will serve no purpose.

Cure a hangover tip #6
Fructose
Fruit juices and honey contain fructose, which is believed to help your body burn through the alcohol more quickly, and that’s a terrific thing. And while fruit has the same effect, I doubt you’ll want to sit around peeling oranges all morning.

Pour yourself a glass of OJ and drink up. If Screwdrivers were your poison of choice last night, however, avoid the OJ and take down a tablespoon of honey instead.

Cure a hangover tip #7
Eat breakfast
You might think that food is the most disgusting thing at this very moment (although the 10 Cosmos you had last night are pretty close as well), eating breakfast will definitely help to cure what ails you.

Whether it’s a greasy concoction of bacon and eggs or a bowl of cereal with a glass of juice, eating when you wake up will help to nourish and replenish your body.

Cure a hangover ASAP

It’s not easy to have the foresight to avoid a hangover when you’re partying up a storm, so sometimes you end up paying the price the next day and need to cure a hangover upon opening your eyes.

And while you keep promising yourself that this is the very last time you will ever do this, I bet you’ll be back here in a couple weeks’ time to get the cure you need.

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How To Fake A Tan

By Joanne Redder

I think it’s safe too say that all of us look better when we have a golden glow. We are also well aware of the serious damage the sun can have on our skin. And the last thing we want is to sacrifice our health in the name of temporary beauty.

Luckily, nowadays, we have alternatives that allow us to have the best of both worlds: We can fake a tan and maintain peak physical health. Of course, you might occasionally spot the orange girl wandering around the streets, but for the most part, you can fake a tan and look like you just came off the beaches of Brazil.

Here, now, are some the best ways to fake a tan, and some products to go with.

Fake a tan tip #1
Use a face self-tanner
When it’s still too cool to walk around with a halter top and short shorts, you can opt to give your face that healthy glow without having to tan your entire body.

The best way to fake a tan subtly without streaks and lines involves a 4-step process.

First, cleanse and exfoliate your skin. Invest in a good cleanser that contains micro-beads to ensure that you eliminate all the dead skin cells. Pat your face dry and skip the moisturizer.

Second, if your hair is long, place it in a bun so that it doesn’t get stuck to your face during application. Because you don’t want to create a drastic change in your face, blend some face self-tanner with your regular moisturizer on the top of your hand and apply the combination to your face, neck and ears. Allow it to dry thoroughly and do your best to avoid sweating until it does. Do not forget to wash your hands thoroughly after you’ve finished applying the concoction.

Third, once you’re certain that your face and its surrounding areas are dry, apply a light bronzer to your nose, the apples of your cheeks and your forehead.

Finally, do not forget to apply a sunscreen (if your moisturizer already contains one, you can skip this step). A self-tanner doesn’t mean you’re safe from the sun’s damaging rays.

Recommended brands:
Laura Mercier Bronzer
Lancome Flash Bronzer Instant Bronze Glow for the Face
Clarins Tinted Self-Tanning Face Cream

Fake a tan tip #2
Use a body self-tanner
Much like self-tanning your face, tanning your body involves a process that requires dedication and vigilant application; otherwise, you might be in for some streaking issues. Luckily, most of the self-tanner applications are very forgiving and allow for mild errors.

But if you want a virtually flawless tan, here’s your 4-step process.

First, take a shower and use a loofah or its equivalent to exfoliate your skin, paying special attention to your elbows, ankles and knees; this is where women tend to mess up their “fake a tan” look.

Second, dry yourself off thoroughly and put on some surgical rubber gloves to avoid ending up with orange palms.

Begin by applying the tanner to your leg first. Place a sparing amount of tanner into your hand, rub your hands together to get some on both and use sweeping motions to apply the tanner from the front of your thigh to the back.

Do the same with your calf and shin, starting at the top and working your way down. Use only the excess to cover your knee, ankle and toes. Move on to the next leg and do the same.

Work your way up and apply tanner to your hips, stomach and upper body. The do your shoulders and arms; again, use only the excess to cover your elbows.

Third, allow your body to dry for at least 10 minutes before getting dressed.

Finally, again, if you’re about to head out with exposed body parts, apply an SPF beforehand. Otherwise, the whole point of the “fake a tan” will fall by the wayside.

Recommended brands:
Neutrogena Instant Bronze Sunless Tanner
Bain de Soleil Streakguarde Self Tanning Creme
Coppertone Endless Summer Sunless Tanning Lotion

Fake a tan tip #3
Head to a salon
If you want to fake a tan all around, your best bet by far is to head to a salon and step into a spray booth for a minute or two.

Most celebrities, from Carmen Electra to Jessica Simpson are avid users of the Hollywood Tan and Mystic Tan booths. You can get an all over body glow and even choose how dark you want to go.

There are also tanning salons that have an esthetician on hand to spray your body down.

And you can opt to exfoliate beforehand or do so at the salon. Either way, for a full body tan that covers you from back to front, a salon tan is the way to go.

Fake a tan all year long

From summer into winter, it’s time you began taking care of your skin and avoiding the sun at all costs. And with all the advancements made with self tanner nowadays, there’s no reason why you can’t fake a tan and fake the perfect glow.

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Annoying Friends - 4 Ways To Get Rid Of Them

By Joanne Redder

We all have them; they’ve been hanging around for years, annoying us to the point where we feel the need to avoid them. They’re our annoying friends.

And if you’re like most people, you don’t like the idea of confrontation or hurting someone’s feelings. But she’s so annoying that you really need to get her out of your life.

So what do you do, short of moving to another city? Well, luckily, you have other options and there are easy, subtle ways to get annoying friends out of your life.

Get rid of annoying friends tip #1
Make sarcastic remarks
If you’re not the type to bite back when someone annoys you, it may be time to show a little spunk and give them a taste of their own medicine.

Depending on how she annoys you, you need to make remarks that expose her behavior. Without biting so hard that silence falls across the room, you can start by making jokes or remarks about how she is.

The wonderful thing about jokes and sarcasm is that, as much as the person it’s directed at wants to say something, they can’t because they’ll never be sure whether or not you’re kidding.

For example, if you have a friend who does nothing but gossip about everyone and their mother, say something like, “wow, I’m shocked to hear you talking about people so much, that’s so not like you.”

Gage her reaction to your comments and if she becomes somewhat uncomfortable, there’s a good chance she won’t want to hang around someone who makes her feel that way.

Get rid of annoying friends tip #2
Have an outsider offend her
If you have an outspoken friend (think “female version of Kramer”), explain your predicament to her and ask her to help you out. If she’s the outspoken type, she’ll have no problem doing so, especially considering she’s not friendly with your annoying friend to begin with.

Invite both friends over (along with other friends if you like) and when your friend notices the annoying one acting up, she will call her on it.

If they get into an argument, all the better. But prepare to be confronted by the annoying friend afterwards. This is where you need to be the most careful because if you’re not, you may end up getting stuck with her for life.

If she asks you how she offended your friend, tell her that you can’t speak for your friend, but that it may be her constant need for attention. If she disagrees and doesn’t believe that it could be that, shrug your shoulders. In time, she may face the truth.

But, and this is important, make it clear that your “outspoken” friend is a very close friend of yours and that the two of you hang out constantly. With any luck, she’ll stay away any time you mention that she’ll be there.

Get rid of annoying friends tip #3
Avoid her till she goes away
Avoiding a friend is difficult and creates feelings of guilt, but if you hate confrontation and prefer to just drop them cold turkey, this may the only way to go.

Get caller ID and whenever you see her number, just don’t answer the phone. If you need an answering machine, that may be problematic because if you run into her in the future and she asks why you never returned her messages, you’ll have some ‘splainin’ to do.

If possible, avoid owning an answering machine altogether and you can plead innocent. If she asks why you never called, use the “I’m busy” speech. If she’s got any brains at all, she’ll get the hint. If not, then it’s up to you to lie by omission. Don’t offer to call her or say that the two of you should get together, otherwise she won’t stop calling.

Get rid of annoying friends tip #4
Annoy her back
If worst comes to worst, and it’s quite possible that it will, it’s time for you to bring out the big guns and become the woman that annoys you. If she gossips, you will begin to do the same. If she criticizes everything you do, you will do the same right back to her.

The point is to make her recognize how annoying she really is. Unfortunately, there’s a good chance that she won’t get it, but that doesn’t matter because you will likely offend her.

If she asks you why you’re behaving this way, explain that sometimes the only way to show someone how they make you feel is by making them feel the same way. Having solid examples on hand would be great.

This might turn into a confrontation that will end in one of two ways:

1. She might apologize for having been such a bitch for so long and promise to make changes to her attitude.
2. She might become irate because of your accusations and swear that your friendship is over.

Either way, I think you come out a winner, but then, that may be for you to decide.

Annoying friends are useless

There will come a time in your life when you will want to break free of someone – whether it be a relative, a boyfriend, or a girl friend, and although confrontation may not be your forte, you will have to stand up for yourself and refuse to settle for less than you want.

Be the strong woman that you are and don’t let anyone make you feel small or uncomfortable. You are your own protector.

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December 7, 2007 - Entertainment News

Everyone knows that the hottest parties happen in L.A., but there's nothing quite like Los Angeles on New Year's. Check out the 5 hottest New Year's parties, complete with celebrities and a dash of drama. (Club Planet)

John Mayer used to be a geek in high school; now he's dumping chicks like Jessica Simpson and dating others like Ricki Lake. (CelebNewsWire)

Kanye West received 8 Grammy nominations for the 2008 awards, but you know he's still gonna bitch about something. (Celebrity Rumors)

I don't know about you, but there's just something very sexy about James McAvoy. (Just Jared)

Check out the new Sex and the City Trailer.

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What Do Your Dreams Mean?

By Alicia Socorro

Some mornings you wake up and get on with your day without remembering or giving a second thought to your dreams. But other days you wake up feeling incredibly disturbed by your dreams and you remember them as if they were real.

Why do we dream? What do our dreams mean? Are our subconscious minds trying to tell us something that our conscious minds are trying to ignore? Well, the answer is never an easy one, considering no one but you knows your past nor what you’re thinking about.

But certain dreams can be interpreted in a way that may help you realize an underlying issue you may not want to face or may not have realized was bothering you until you were told in a dream.

Are you ready to interpret some of the most common dreams women have? Let’s find out what your dreams mean.

What dreams mean situation #1
Naked
You’re going about your dream wonderfully when, all of a sudden, you look down to discover that you are completely naked in front of all these people. This could mean a number of things, depending on where you stand in your everyday life.

You’re hiding something – You have a secret you are keeping from others that you don’t want to or are afraid to reveal.

You’re unprepared – There’s a presentation of sorts coming up and you don’t think you’re well-prepared for it.

You’re proud – If, in your dream, you take pride in being naked, it could symbolize that you feel you have an unrestricted freedom to do whatever it is you desire.

You’re overanalyzing – If you are naked and no one else in your dream notices, it may be because you are making a big deal out of a small situation in your real life.

What dreams mean situation #2
Teeth falling out
One of the most common dreams around, your teeth crumble or fall out of your mouth one by one until you’re left with nothing but gums.

You’re anxious about your appearance – It’s possible that you’re about to meet someone who has never seen you before and you’re unsure about how they will perceive you.

You’re afraid of making a fool of yourself – Sometimes such a dream indicates an underlying fear of making a fool of yourself in a public situation.

You feel powerless – Teeth are used to bite, chew and tear things apart; the loss of them may represent a lack of power in certain aspects of your life.

You’re lying – According to Chinese scripture, losing your teeth indicates that you are lying about something in your daily life.

You’re menopausal – Having all your teeth is attractive (well, at least in relation to not having them), and if you’re menopausal you may feel that you are losing your attractiveness or “femininity.”

What dreams mean situation #3
Being chased
In your dream, you’re running away from someone who seems to be getting closer and closer to you no matter how quickly you try to outrun them.

You’re avoiding issues – Instead of confronting the problems in your life, you are trying to outrun them, so to speak.

You’re dealing with inner conflict – The chaser may represent a part of yourself that you’re not happy with. For example, if you’re feeling jealous, angry or in love, such feelings can show themselves as a threatening figure in dreams.

You’re afraid of being assaulted – Sometimes your dream may be true to life and not just symbolic. For example, if you have to travel through a dark parking lot every night after work, your fear of being attacked might reveal itself via your dreams.

What dreams mean situation #4
Falling
You’re falling and falling and you can’t hold onto anything nor can you stop it. You’re afraid that, at some point, you’re going to hit the ground, but it just doesn’t happen (and despite popular opinion, you don’t die in real life if you hit the ground in your dream).

You’re feeling unstable – Such dreams indicate a feeling of instability or anxiety, and it’s quite possible that you’re not sure how to deal with your current situation.

You’ve failed – whether it’s an exam or a relationship, you feel like you’ve failed and don’t know how to cope with these feelings.

You’re losing your pride – Whether it’s doing something you’re not too proud of or you’re inability to keep up with the Joneses, your pride is taking a hit.

Find out what your dreams mean

Dreams help us manage our thoughts and feelings, and may even give us a sign of things to come. Then again, they may just take place due to occurrences of the day (e.g. you run into a high school friend, then dream that you’re at the prom).

But it’s true that we dream for a reason; the only problem is that it’s left up to us to figure out what that reason is.

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Spa Massages Explained

By Alicia Socorro

So you’ve decided that it’s time to start spoiling yourself, but when you grabbed a pamphlet from your local spa and noticed that there were a multitude of spa massages to choose from, you felt intimidated and decided that maybe that spa visit can wait.

Who can blame you, considering all these weird names and no explanations? Of course, if you keep putting it off, you will be missing out on the many benefits associated with spa massages… and there are many.

Spa massages are beneficial due to their muscle relaxation properties, stress alleviation, their ability to combat constipation and improve muscle tone, and, if performed regularly, can even reduce the appearance of cellulite.

Depending on what ails you or if you simply want to chill out for an hour and have someone rub you up and down, there are spa massages that is perfect for you.

First massage trip tips

If you’re paranoid about being completely naked, don’t worry, you can opt to leave your underwear on; leaving on any more than that will hinder the massage therapist’s ability to massage you effectively. You are covered with a sheet the entire time anyway.

If you’re more comfortable being massaged by a woman, call ahead and request one.

You can keep exact change with you so that you can tip the massage therapist or you can leave a tip with the front desk before you leave.

Tell the therapist if there’s a certain area of your body that aches.

If you’re uncomfortable with the music, the pressure being applied, or anything else, tell the therapist and he or she will be more than happy to make the necessary adjustments.

If you want to stay quiet or carry on a conversation during the massage, the therapist will follow suit.

Shower beforehand. It is important that your body is clean for the massage; otherwise the therapist may refuse to massage you.

Spa massages #1
Swedish
This massage technique involves rolling and kneading strokes. Using oil, the massage therapist spends his or her time performing movements that will leave you feeling both relaxed and rejuvenated.

Swedish benefits: Stimulates circulation and helps the body relax.

Spa massages #2
Shiatsu
This traditionally Japanese massage is designed to use your life force, or Chi, to help your body become more harmonized. The massage therapist uses their thumbs to locate strategic areas on the body and use acupressure to refresh and restore balance to the body and mind. This massage is sometimes performed on a floor mat with no massage oil.

Shiatsu benefits: Reduces stress and fatigue, and minimizes back pain, shoulder and neck problems, headaches, constipation, and menstrual cramps.

Spa massages #3
Lymphatic drainage
With a self-explanatory objective, this type of massage persuades the lymph capillaries to open and close, which helps the body cleanse itself and begin a cell renewal process. With soft, circular motions, the massage therapist uses his or her fingertips to massage all the lymphatic areas on your body.

Lymphatic drainage benefits: Raises energy levels, removes toxins from the body, reduces cellulite, and improves immune function.

Spa massages #4
Reflexology
This massage is based on the belief that there are reflexes in the hands and feet that correspond to the entire body. The massage therapist uses their thumbs and index fingers to apply pressure to these reflex points. After the pressure, you will be treated to a relaxing foot and hand massage.

Reflexology benefits: Improves circulation, cleanses your body of toxins and impurities, and restores energy.

Spa massages #5
Aromatherapy
With the objective of combining the sense of smell and the sense of touch, this type of massage aims to relax you with a soft massage and lightly scented oils.

Aromatherapy benefits: Releases pressure and stress from the body and mind, and restores a sense of peace.

Spa massages #6
Deep tissue
Using a kneading motion, the massage therapist reaches deep down into muscle tissues to correct problems in the body including whip lash, backaches and other muscle injuries. The different types of deep tissue massage include Trager, Rolfing, Feldenkrais, and Hellerwork. It is possible to feel sore the day after this type of massage.

Deep tissue benefits: Realigns muscles.

Spa massages #7
Reiki
This type of massage existed in ancient Tibetan times and was brought to North America in the 1950s; it involves healing through light touch. Chakras, or energy centers, are aligned and the massage therapist is trained to serve as a vessel by which your life force is revitalized.

Reiki benefits: Relaxes the entire body and heals general maladies.

Spa massages #8
Stone therapy
Stone therapy, or thermotherapy, combines heat and pressure with the use of smooth stones placed on strategic areas on the back.

Stone therapy benefits: Relaxes the body, promotes healing, and releases stress and toxins.

Spa massages

Spas offer a whole lot more than just massages, but if it’s your first time, get a massage at a variety of spas before settling on one.

Some people think that massages are a luxury, and it’s true, they are, but they are also very beneficial to the body and you shouldn’t wait until you get a gift certificate before visiting one.

Get your rub on.

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8 Ways To Be Happy

By Alicia Socorro

Do you know someone who is always in a good mood? Does it get on your nerves? Yeah, me too. But being happy is important for many reasons, but, above and beyond all else, it’s important if you want to have a better quality of life. Don’t you want to be happy?

If you’re consistently complaining or on edge, how comfortable do you really feel in your own skin? How comfortable can others possibly feel around you if everything is negative or upsets you?

It’s time to get a grip on your emotions and turn anger and frustration into happiness. Of course, you won’t become Mary Poppins come tomorrow morning, but you may start looking at your life in a new, more positive fashion. And although it may take some time, you can be happy, and love life.

How to be happy tip #1
Make time for you
How often do you sit alone in a quiet room and think? If you’re like most women, there’s a good chance that it’s not often at all.

It’s important to spend time by yourself without zoning out to the television. Most of us arrive home, turn on the TV, have dinner, talk to family and friends, and go to bed without having even reflected on ourselves. Is that any way to be happy?

And you don’t have to meditate to be effective; read a book you’ve been eyeing, lie down and close your eyes for five minutes, or soak in a hot bath for 20 minutes. You don’t need to be alone for hours on end, but making yourself a priority for a little while each day will help you become more satisfied with your life, not to mention be happy about what you do have going for you.

How to be happy tip #2
Smile at everyone
I live in a metropolitan area where smiling at strangers makes you certifiable, but I do it anyway, and more and more, I notice that people feel good about it and most return the small favor.

If you smile, you will instantly feel better and make those around you feel better, thus filling your surroundings with a positive vibe.

Whether it’s people you see every day during your commute or someone you’ve never seen before at Starbuck’s, smile your pretty little face off and spread the goodness. If you want to be happy, perhaps you should start acting happy.

How to be happy tip #3
Eat right
Believe it or not, too much sugar, greasy foods and hydrogenated fats can leave you feeling depressed. If you don’t get any raw food in your diet and consistently eat fast food, it may have a serious impact on your moods.

Adding Omega 3 to your diet via fish, flaxseed or even a supplement, may help to ward off depression, according to a study conducted by Dr. Joseph Hibbeln of the National Institutes of Health (NIH).

As well, fresh fruit like bananas and strawberries also provide necessary vitamins to keep your serotonin levels up and allowing you to be happy.

And you’ll be happy to know that chocolate is on that list, however, I strongly recommend you consume (70% or higher) dark chocolate rather than milk or white chocolate (it’s healthier) and even then, consume it in moderation.

How to be happy tip #4
Exercise
On so many levels, being active is so good for you. It will help you reshape your body, thus making you feel better about yourself and resulting in, you guessed it, happiness. When you feel confident about your body, you will be happy, no doubt.

But there’s more; exercising releases serotonin, dopamine, norepinephrine, and endorphins, natural chemicals in the body that boost mood. If you’ve never heard of “runner’s high,” the theory is based on the fact that after rigorous exercise, runners feel this euphoric sensation come over them.

So commit yourself to a 30-minute walk every single day (at the very least), and you will begin to feel and look better, and be happy.

How to be happy tip #5
Get orgasmic
If you’ve never experienced orgasm, it’s no wonder you’ve been moody… just kidding. But orgasm results in the body’s release of oxytocin, a chemical that causes the release of endorphins, ultimately helping you to be happy. Although some would argue that getting laid in general would pretty much take care of that whole happiness issue.

Regular orgasm is good for the body and for your mood, just keep in mind that you need to play it safe and use protection if you are not in a monogamous relationship and do not want to spend half the month wondering if you’re pregnant. That would not help you to be happy.

How to be happy tip #6
Get a pet
If you are not an animal person or think that animals in the home are disgusting, then don’t get a pet. But if you’ve been debating whether or not to get a toy dog or a kitty cat, you may inadvertently be doing yourself a favor.

Animals are innocent and are never intentionally malicious towards their owners. They love you unconditionally, and nothing will help you to be happy like coming home to a pet who adores you.

Even if you’ve had the worst day of your life, spending a few minutes petting your animal will help to calm you down and realize that things aren’t really that bad.

How to be happy tip #7
Remind yourself how lucky you are
If you lost a major account at work or you and your boyfriend had a huge fight and you’re wondering if this is the end of the road for you as a couple, take a minute and think about your situation.

Sometimes we tend to be a little melodramatic and quickly conclude that our lives are so terrible, but upon further reflection, we realize that we’re actually quite lucky to be living where we do, to have our health, and to be loved by so many people.

Although you might want to wallow in self-pity sometimes (and that’s okay), bring yourself back to reality and remind yourself that things could always be worse. If you want to be happy, you need to focus on all the good things in your life.

How to be happy tip #8
Calm down
We spend our lives rushing through every day. We rush to work, we rush to eat lunch and get back to work, we rush home, and we rush through traffic.

Take a minute, look away from the computer, count to 10, then inhale to a 4-count, letting your stomach protrude, and exhale. Go ahead, I’ll wait…

There, don’t you feel calmer? Whenever you feel like your brain is overwhelmed with thoughts or that there just isn’t enough time in the day to do everything, stop for one minute, breathe deep, and get back to what you were doing. You may realize that you’re freaking out for nothing. If you want to be happy, you need to put things in perspective.

All women can be happy

You can’t expect a man or money or anything else to help you be happy. You create and destroy your own happiness because what it all comes down to is your mindset.

Now is your mind set on being pissed off all day, or would you rather be more pleasant and feel good about yourself? The choice is ultimately up to you.

Remember: No one can make you angry or upset, you have control over your feelings. And you can choose to be happy.

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How To Improve Your Table Manners

By Joanne Redder

Whether you’re having a casual dinner with girlfriends or dining at a high-end restaurant with the potential man of your dreams, table manners are an important indication of what you’re really like.

While I’m sure you know the basics of how to eat like a lady, it’s possible that you let your best behavior fall by the wayside every now and then, and all you need is a refresher course to make sure that you maintain your table manners for a lifetime.

And even if you’re date is not behaving like a gentleman or your girlfriends are downing ribs and have sauce smeared all over their faces, it will only reflect well on you to conduct yourself like a lady.

So the next time you’re out, here’s what you need to remember about your table manners:

Table manners tip #1
When a chair is pulled out for you
Whether it’s your date or the service person, when anyone pulls out your chair, thank them and kneel down far away enough from the chair so that when the person pushes it in slightly, you can grab the bottom of the chair and perfect your seating.

Do not sit directly where the chair has been pulled out, otherwise the person will have a difficult time trying to help you bring the chair in.

Table manners tip #2
Body language
Your body language says a lot about you. Even if you are the most polite and entertaining conversationalist, if you cannot keep your “body” manners up, the rest of your behavior may not get noticed.

Napkin – Upon being seated, bring your napkin down to your lap (assuming it’s cloth), unfold it, and place it in your lap. When you finish eating, place your napkin beside the plate.

Arms – Keep your elbows off the table at all times, but do place your forearms on the table. Do not keep your hands under the table, it is considered rude.

Legs – Do not cross your legs (unless you can do so discreetly under the table) and do not at any point place your foot on the chair.

Posture – Try to keep your back against the chair when you are not eating and maintain your posture throughout the night.

Table manners tip #3
Dining etiquette
While I can’t be there to tell you how to eat whatever it is that you order, there are some simple tips you need to keep in mind.

Seasoning – Do not add salt and pepper to your food before you’ve tasted it. If someone asks you to pass the salt, pass both the salt and pepper by picking them up and placing them near the person next to you -- they should not be passed from hand to hand. As well, if someone made the request before you’ve used them, they get first dibs.

Soup – Dip your spoon into the soup and spoon away from your body, filling 2/3 of the spoon. Do not blow on or slurp your soup. When it is nearing the finish, it is fine to tilt the bowl.

Other appetizers & meals – Besides bread, I strongly suggest that you don’t order anything that needs to be eaten with your fingers (ribs, lamb chops). It could get messy and may not give off the sort of impression you’d like to make. And when you opt to eat bread – break off a piece at a time, put some butter on it (if you want) and then place the morsel in your mouth.

Every course – Leave a bit of food on your plate throughout each course; it is considered good manners.

Table manners tip #4
Utensils use
They have long been the bane of most diners but there are some easy tips to follow when it comes to your forks knives, and spoons.

If there are multiple forks at your setting, begin with the outside fork and work your way in.

When dining with a fork and knife, cut a couple of pieces of your food, place your knife at the top of your plate with the blade facing toward you, then place a morsel inside your mouth.

Always bring the food up to your mouth; do not lower your face closer to your plate.

After you’ve completed a course, do not place your used utensils back in their original place. Instead, place both your fork and knife on the right side of the plate, with the points facing away from you to indicate that you’ve completed your course.

Table manners tip #5
Being served
In an ideal world, everyone’s food would arrive at the same time. Sometimes, however, that is not the case. If your food happens to arrive before anyone else’s, wait until they have received their food as well.

If you happen to be in a restaurant where a bunch of platters are being served for the entire table to share, always pass food on your right.

Table manners tip #6
Drinking
Whether you are drinking wine or mineral water, if your glass has a stem, always hold it from the stem.

Do not take a drink of anything until someone else has broken the ice or offers to make a toast.

If you want to take a drink while you are eating, swallow your food and wipe your mouth with your napkin beforehand.

Table manners tip #7
Good conversation
If you want to be able to carry on a conversation (which you should), take small bites of food with each forkful so that you are able to swallow quickly and maintain a conversation.

Even if you’re telling a wicked story about the time you were nearly eaten by a shark, do not at any point wave your utensils in the air while speaking.

Table manners tip #8
Bathroom breaks
It’s inevitable; with all that liquid being ingested, you will definitely need a bathroom break. Or, you may just want to reapply your lipstick.

Excuse yourself before you stand up. Do not explain why you need to be excused. When you do stand up, place your napkin on your chair.

Table manners tip #9
Paying the tab
If you are the one who extended the invitation to dinner, it’s only right to pick up the tab. Be discreet about it and thank your guest(s) for coming.

Table manners for women

It’s widely believed that if you’re looking for a gentleman, you need to behave like a lady, and while no one wants to be this formal all the time, it is nice to adapt some table manners when you’re in a situation that calls for it.

Bon appetit.

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How To Throw The Perfect Barbecue

By Joanne Redder

You’ve decided to invite over all your friends over for an outdoor barbecue in your massive backyard or on the rooftop of your building. The thing is, you want to make certain that everyone has a good time and a full stomach, but you’re not absolutely certain about how to go about accomplishing that.

Well, with the right food, drinks and entertainment, your guests will be talking about your perfect barbecue for the rest of the summer.

Here’s what you’ll need to get and what you’ll need to do.

Own the perfect barbecue grill
Before you even bother inviting anyone, you need to get yourself the perfect barbecue grill. There’s much debate over whether charcoal or gas is best – charcoal gives food that great smoky flavor, but gas is easier to deal with and you can add smoky wood chips to enhance the flavor of food.

No matter which one you select, make sure it’s big enough to put a lot of food on simultaneously.

Buy enough food
Not only do you need to buy food, but you need to buy a whole lot of it. You also have to keep in mind that everyone has different tastes and while a perfect barbecue is, by definition, a meat eater’s thing, there are other foodstuffs that you should include.

Here’s what you may want to add to your shopping list:

-Steaks
-Hot dogs and buns
-Sausages and some sort of exotic bread (walnut, olive, jalapeno corn, etc.)
-Pork
-Seafood (shrimp, scallops, salmon)
-Hamburgers and buns
-Ribs
-Chicken
-Vegetables for grilling (peppers, tomatoes, onions, zucchini, corn on the cob)
-Condiments (ketchup, mustard, hot sauce, relish, mayonnaise, pickles)
-Seasonings and marinades (optional)
-Chips and dip
-Trail mix
-Salad (lettuce, tomatoes, cucumbers, nuts)
-Fruits (pineapples, peaches, mangos, berries, cherries, oranges, melons)


It is best to buy most of this food the day before your get together to ensure freshness and enough time to complete everything. The day of the party, remove the meat from the fridge an hour beforehand and let it rest on your kitchen counter.

As well, don’t think you’re limited to grilling just vegetables and meat at your perfect barbecue; throw some pineapple, peaches, melon, and mango onto the grill for some great treats.

And if you have a boatload of food leftover, give everyone a parting platter to take home. That way, you don’t end up with weeks of leftovers nor do you have to throw anything away.

Plenty of drinks
As with the food, all these different palates gathering in your backyard will also want different drinks to quench their thirst. But one common factor for all these perfect barbecue drinks is that they need to be cold.

Here’s what you may want to add to your shopping list:

-Coolers
-Variety of beer (domestic and foreign)
-Sodas (regular, diet)
-Juices (fruit and iced tea)
-Bottled water (spring and mineral)
-Mixed alcoholic drinks (Smirnoff Ice, Mike’s Hard Lemonade)
-Wine (red, white and rose)
-Daiquiri and margarita mix
-Plenty of ice

Other perfect barbecue necessities
Your party would be a bust if everyone was forced to eat with their hands and then throw everything on the floor. So although the food and drink is important, without the little necessities, you would have quite the mess on your hands.

Here’s what you may want to add to your shopping list:

-Garbage bags (place some all over the place)
-Plastic plates, utensils and cups (you don’t want to spend all night cleaning)
-Grilling tools (tongs, spatula, fork, grilling grid)
-Napkins and paper weights (place some napkins everywhere)
-Tiki torches and citronella candles (if the party goes on well into the evening)

Entertainment
Your guests may end up chatting the night away, but it’s a great idea to plan for some entertainment and give yourself some insurance that everyone will have a good time.

Music – It’s a great idea to have music playing in the background continuously. Make sure to instill a variety of songs so that everyone ends up bobbing their head to the music at some point. Hook your iPod up to the speakers and let the music play amid your perfect barbecue.

Games – From darts and badminton to “what if...” (a game in which you present guests with hypothetical situations), games will help guests become more comfortable with each other and allow for a better rapport.

Outdoor equipment
Your backyard (or rooftop) should contain items that ensure guests’ comfort and satisfaction, and the best way to prepare for your perfect barbecue is by hanging out in your backyard a few days before the event to see what goes on back there.

And, if necessary, get the following items:

-Chairs (place bunches of chairs in strategic places so that people can wander around and join circles and discussions)
-Tables (big ones to place the food on and small ones for guests to place their plates and drinks on)
-Overhead coverage - if the sun beats down on your backyard or the weather ends up being disagreeable, it’s a great idea to provide shaded areas or overhead coverage.

The perfect barbecue

It looks like you’ll have everything covered at your get together. Now all you need is a beautiful day and some awesome bug repellant.

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